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Three Summer Vacations You Need to Plan Right Now

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As a Mom, you are most likely an awesome planner.  We get enough practice.  We plan for our kids birthdays weeks in advance.  We keep all the appointments on the books, make endless grocery shopping list and keep our Pinterest account active with all the great things we want to do/cook/make this year.  But how are you doing on summer vacation plans?  Do you squeeze in one maybe two family getaways and call it good.  Do you think, as a Mom, this is what you’re supposed to do?

But it’s not enough, or rather, it’s not what you should be doing. Summer vacations are, arguably, the life-blood of, well, life.   They are what sustain many of us.  That an a nice glass of Pinot, but that’s another blog post.  Summer vacations keep us putting one foot in front of the other.   And, summer vacation planning is sometimes more fun than the vacation itself.   That sense of excitement, the sense of possibility.

Moms, you need to be doing more when it comes to vacations and I’m not talking more family getaways.  I’m talking a lifelong global vacation plan.  One that you adhere to, no matter what.  

Before everyone gets all up in my you know what, saying they can’t afford it, etc. etc.  I’m not talking week long vacations at some exotic locale, I’m advocating for the three vacation budget each year.  It can be a long weekend a few miles away, a short plane ride, or maybe one of those passport requiring exotic locales.  A summer vacation can be any amount of time, to any locale (as long as it’s away from home), to take a break from the day to day requirements of your life. Vacations don’t have to take place in the summer and stretching them throughout the year might be a good thing!  It’s not when you take them it’s that you take them.  I list them in no order of importance because they are all EQUALLY important.

1.  Getaway with Family – Clearly family getaways are essential, the grow the family bond, provide endless photographic happy couple on vacation in Europeopportunities, and provide life long memories.

There is nothing better than a summer vacation with the family near some water ideally.

Or, maybe now’s the time to plan that bucket list Disney vacation or cruise.

Do it right and use mickey's mvpa travel agent, their services are free and they’ll make sure to get you reservations at Cinderella’s Royal Table in the castle, an appointment at the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique or whatever your little prince or princess desires.


2.  Getaway with Husband (alone) – This is essential and anyway you can make it happen you should.  I know finding someone to look after your kids for an extended time is tough but even if it’s just two days and one night somewhere, you will love it. If you make it mandatory, you’ll be looking forward to it year after year.


3.  Getaway with Friends – You love your husband, you love your kids, but your friends are probably the biggest part of your support network.  Enter the girlfriend weekend.  Celebrate being tFour beautiful woman are dancing on the old car. Green fields on the for each other, celebrate yourselves, re-connect and re-charge away from the kids screaming “Moooom” and the demands of dinner, laundry, and grocery shopping.  Forget for a minute that your a mom and remember that you are a woman, even better, a girl who likes to have fun and hang out with her friends!

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The Fallacy of Rachel Dolezal’s “Identify as Black” Explanation

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I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” — Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.


I, like many of you, have been following the Rachel Dolezal story, albeit from a distance thinking this woman deserves our sympathy as she struggles with some serious personal issues.  But when she came out with her “identify as black” explanation, this has called me to action. We have made great strides with race relations since Martin Luther King, Jr.’s time and even my own childhood and the message has always been:

Don’t judge people by the color of their skin, we are all the same on the inside.

For Rachel Dolezal to equate her situation to the challenges faced by the transgender community strikes me as narcissistic in the extreme and incredibly disrespectful to that community. Why make such claims?  To what end? Personal gain? To advance some ideological agenda?

At the same time, I’m equally troubled by her parents “calling her out” on it.  To what end? Personal gain? To advance some ideological agenda?  I’m not sure we will ever know.

Identifying as a different gender has a scientific component–from biology to the physiology of hormones and just about every “ology” in between.  Identifying as a woman when you were born with male parts (and vice versa) means that those “ology” messages got wired differently than the norm.  Not wrongly, just differently.  We can and should accept that the remarkable machine that is the human body can have infinite variables and mutations. Such is the way of science.  The same argument does not work with race, nor should it.

Ms. Dolezal’s explanation for her actions, rather than advancing the African-American cause, takes it two steps back.   At the core, Ms. Dolezal’s message is that race matters, it makes us fundamentally different as human beings. The color of your skin matters.  I believe this is a wrong message.  As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. so eloquently said, character is what matters.  The type of person you are, not the color of your skin matters.  For race relations in this country to continue to improve, a strong and consistent message is important.  Ms. Dolezal’s argument only muddies the waters and is divisive rather than unifying.

I should add that although I’m not familiar with her achievements as head of the Spokane NAACP, I applaud her efforts and hope that she continues to support, empathize with, and aid in the continued struggles facing African Americans in this country who are still marginalized because of the color of their skin.

I, for one, will continue to believe, and teach my children, that we are all one race, the human race.





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